Help! My Anger is Out of Control

How often have you said those words to yourself? It can be difficult dealing with many circumstances these days, but it is still important to learn how to control your temper.

The main thing to remember here is that you are always in control. You should never find yourself in a situation that you can’t control. By allowing yourself to even think that your temper is out of control, you are just making an excuse for yourself!

To a certain point anger is a healthy response. It allows you to vent your frustrations and feelings, but it should not get the better of you. If you find that you are turning violent when angry then you have a major problem. One that might even necessitate anger management counseling.

There is one difference that you should be aware of. It is not how you are feeling that is wrong. It is what you do with your feelings that becomes the issue.

If you allow yourself to throw a tantrum and fling your arms around, shouting wildly, this is obviously not a good sign. You are liable to hurt other people’s feelings as well as possibly causing them physical harm.

When you let your temper get the better of you it can have serious consequences. This includes:

• Being bad for your mental health
• Can damage your physical health – stress and heart attacks
• Ruin your career
• Damage relationships with friends, family and co-workers

Your first step is to seek out help and learn to manage your temper in a more effective way. This can include group therapy or it can consist of you learning how to manage your anger by yourself.

Learning to control your temper will take time and effort. One of the first things you should do is to try and determine what the root cause of your anger is. Did you grow up in an angry household? Have you experienced a traumatic event?

Sometimes the root cause of anger can be hidden deep inside. It is only with a lot of souls searching and meditating that the answers will be revealed.

Find a quiet place where you won’t be disturbed and start making a list of all the things that make you angry. Then put them in order of importance – which one lights your fuse first. Once you know what your root cause is, it can be dealt with. Again this will take time and effort, but you at least know why you feel so angry.